Many issues and problems in many marriages today would not have happened had the individuals understood the will of God and honoured it.
In this second instalment of our beautiful teaching series, I would like to discuss another critical factor to consider when choosing a life partner.
2 – Embrace and Engage God’s wisdom and prayer.
There is a powerful counsel in the scriptures that I need us to lean on. Proverbs 3:5- 6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Do not depend on your understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.”
Prayer is key in our lives. Pray about everything. Talk to God about everything. Ask him to show you things because that’s his promise in his word (Jeremiah 33:3). Many times, he may not show you things through dreams or visions, but he will show you things from his word. He will give you counsel and wisdom from his word.
Pray about everything. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you.
Sometimes, we failto involve the Holy Spirit in our relationship choices because we are so rushed, desperate, or carried away. Sometimes, we are in such a hurry that we fail to consult with the Holy Spirit.
We fail to ask for advice from the Holy Spirit, and by ignoring the Holy Spirit’s input, we rush into danger. This is why we must commit to God’s wisdom and prayer. You see, wisdom can be found in scripture.
Yes, you will not find in chapter and verse who you should marry. But here is what you will find in the bible; you will find descriptions of godly character, Christ-like nature, and the fruits of the Holy Spirit. These descriptions and truths become the principles and foundations for building godly relationships andsustaining the right understanding.
As we look through the scripture, we gain wisdom.
So, you may not find the name of the one you desire to marry in the Bible, but you will find guiding principles that give you wisdom for seeking out a spouse, which you can then apply along with prayer.
It is essential to involve the Holy Spirit. Ask him to direct you. We must be honest about what the Holy Spirit is speaking to us because sometimes, we pretend we know what the Holy Spirit is saying or hope that he’s saying something. In doing so, we actually derail our divine destiny.
Sometimes, if we want something very badly, we tend to convince ourselves that God has approved it even when he warns us against it.
When you apply godly wisdom on issues of seeking or choosing a spouse, you will begin to ask critical questions. You begin to wonder certain things about the person you are pursuing, like, do they know how to choose happiness?
For example, how does that person react if they find themselves in a less-than-ideal situation? How do they react to pressure, tragedy and challenges? How do they respond to inconvenience? How do they react when things don’t go their way? Do they become dramatic? Do they cause chaos? Do they attack you, or do they adjust? Do they know how to choose happiness? Do they know how to bring out the better side of you? Or are they constantly bringing things out of you that you regret? Do they cause chaos and emotional turmoil?
With this person, are you constantly anguished, constantly vexed like this dark cloud hanging over you? You can see that you are not at your best with them. This is not healthy. This is not something to ignore.
Godly wisdom would tell you not to be with a person like that. Don’t marry a person like that. Don’t create justification for consistent bad behaviour. Don’t walk into something that will destroy you for the rest of your life. The signs are all there, don’t ignore them. Don’t allow anything to make you ignore God’s wisdom. If you give your ears to godly wisdom, it will save you from pain.
