Marriage is a beautiful gift from God. Marriage is a good thing, but not everyone gets it right. For many, the root cause of their issues is the choice of partners. Some Christian singles don’t know what to look for in a prospective partner, so they look in the wrong direction and make poor and bad choices.

So, in this article, I want to offer some practical help and counsel. I want to share four biblical keys to finding a godly spouse. While there are many good things to consider, I believe the four things discussed in this article are non-negotiables.

In Genesis chapter two, verse 18, the Bible says, “The Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” The scriptures further state that a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

Let’s begin with the keys to finding a godly and helpful spouse.

1 – Find/discover your purpose and calling before you find your spouse.

God’s word in Amos 3:3 says, “Can two walk together except they be agreed?”I have seen many people become miserable in their marriages. I have seen many people derailed from their calling before they really even got started. Why? Because they picked the wrong spouse.

I’m not trying to scare you, but I want to prepare you rightly. It’s important that you pick the right spouse because if you choose the wrong person, it will affect your calling. It will affect you in future.

Many times, I have seen people destroyed because they married someone who wasn’t in agreement with their purpose and calling. They weren’t willing to make sacrifices, go all in, or support because they weren’t in alignment in this area. So, this is why it’s important that you first find your calling.

Some people are in such a rush to get married that they go looking for a spouse before they know what God wants them to do.

It’s important that you discover the call of God for your life, or at least the general direction that God wants you to go. Once you’ve established your path or calling, you can look for a spouse who will complement that calling instead of someone who will make you derail or limited.

If you marry someone who doesn’t complement your calling, you are forced to make difficult choices and unhealthy compromises. If you marry someone who doesn’t complement your calling and contradicts it, you have to choose between a flourishing marriage or a flourishing calling/career/ministry, etc.

But you can’t have both with the wrong partner; they will constantly fight you on your calling. They will constantly complain. They will constantly contradict what God is telling you to do, all because you didn’t find or prioritise your purpose or calling before you found the spouse.

Dear friend, it is important to discover your path, purpose and calling before you find your spouse. This will guide and properly inform your choice.